One of the hardest things for us to be successful at in our lives is relationships. This is for a variety of reasons, so I’ve come up with my top 6 tips. Some reasons why a relationship might not work could be because one of both of you want different things, perhaps you weren’t right for each other when you met, or perhaps one of both of you don’t communicate well with each other. There could be any number of reasons why a relationship doesn’t work, but here are my top 6 tips on how to have a successful relationship.
My top 6 tips for relationships
The one thing that can make or break any relationship, is really bad communication. Sometimes we don’t explain ourselves as well as we think we do. This could be because we understand what we are thinking well, and we expect others to understand us too. But also, speaking to somebody harshly, or when you’re stressed can really have a negative impact on our communication. My advice is to not respond negatively to your partner, even if they’re communicating negatively with you. 2 ‘wrongs’, definitely do not make a ‘right’. Speak from the heart, not the mind. Consider the words you use, and if they could be interpreted badly by the other person. And consider if there’s a better, more affective way to say what you’re trying to say.
It’s really important in any relationship to know your boundaries. If you don’t, you may end up in a relationship that is focused on people pleasing and one sided effort. Know what your tolerances are and communicate them affectively to your partner, to avoid the other person crossing the line.
#3 Personal Space
Everybody needs personal space, especially in relationships. If you don’t get it, then you will likely end up in a situation where you feel trapped or not getting the balance that you need. You need time out.
Doing things together as a family is important, but so is independance. If you don’t get it, will likely after some time, end up in a co-dependancy relationship.
If your partner does not accept you for who you are, then your relationship is already over, and it’s unlikely that it can be salvaged. You would have to communicate your feelings well with them, expressing how important it is that they accept you for who you are, and what you believe, but they don’t have to agree. If they don’t accept you for who you are, and they aren’t likely to change their mind on that, then you also need to accept something… you deserve better than that!
#6 Date Nights
Over time, a relationship can lose its spark. A great way of reviving and bringing freshness back, is to have a date night. This means, no calls to other people, no talk about problems or issues that you have, no arguments. Date nights are simply for you to woo your partner and to enjoy their company as if you’re on a date with someone new. People can become complacent in relationships, and date night are a great way to spice things up.